Problems Telling My Ex That I Have Genital Herpes
I was seeing someone for almost a year. Things were going well, we were happy & enjoyed one another. A few months ago he began to do the slow fade on me & now has just disappeared. He won't answer any of my texts or calls. Things began to change not long after we became intimate the first time, however he kept coming back telling me how much he loved being with me.
My problem is that I needed to see my OB-GYN doctor back in May for symptoms I was having, & she did a culture on me which showed positive gardnerella. I was treated with antibiotics, & went back to the doctor to have a repeat culture done, which was negative.
The doctor kept me on antibiotics due to beta strep in my urine. In the past, I've never ever had anything like this. So, while I was there, I asked her to do more tests so I could have peace of mind. Everything came back OK except that my HSV2 IGG Herpeselect AB came back greater than 5.0. I don't know if he gave it to me, or if it was from a previous relationship.
I am a nurse, & I feel it is my obligation to somehow get the message to him that I have this. I have recently been dealing with vaginal itching, & a recent outbreak of pinkeye, but my eye doctor said that if my pinkeye is Herpes-related, the HSV1 type usually causes that, which I don't have.
I have heard advice from some people on various message boards that say
not to say anything to him as he has been ignoring me for 2 months now. I did say in my texts/voice messages that I left him that I had an important personal matter to discuss with him, but he won't reply back to me. Perhaps I should have said it was a health-related matter that could potentially involve him?
Please... this is beating me up. It's bad enough I've been so rejected by him, & now I have to live with the fact that I have HSV2, let alone that he doesn't even care about getting back with me. What should I do? I would not want to spell out this news in a voice mail or text, or even an email, which is why I've left the messages asking him to call me regarding an important personal matter. What would you do? Thank you...Thank you for sharing your question with our community. It's admirable of you for trying to inform your ex. But I think you know what you should do, otherwise you would have simply taken the advice of the other people on the message boards.
There is only so much that you can do but it is your responsibility to tell him. It's only fair.
My advice would be to leave a message and/or send him an email stating that the important message is health related.
You could even send him an old fashioned certified letter with a signed return receipt. This would give you the documentation that you'll need...just in case he decides to pursue legal action.
Wishing You success and happiness!