I'm Only 16 And Have Herpes
So I gave my virginity to my boyfriend of 10 months just before my 16th birthday. Everything seemed fine and normal. I asked him if he's ever had any problems before hand, like cold and or sores/rashes and he said that he hadn't.
He'd said that he had never had unprotected sex with anyone. So we both thought it was safe to just play around for a bit before we used a condom.
The only 3 months later, just after my period I notice a sore lump on my vagina. I thought it was just an ingrown hair or tear. Then within days it spread to the sides and I have about 12 or so little red, ulcerated looking sores. The thought of peeing makes me cringe in fear.
I went to the doctor yesterday and had 2 swabs taken, one inside my vagina and one of the puss from an ulcer. (it hurt!) I also had blood and urine samples sent off to be tested for herpes. The doctor was almost certain that it was HSV and I just sat there and cried.
He was just throwing me all these scary facts. The difficulties I'm expected to encounter in pregnancy hit me the hardest. He told me there is no cure and expected me to calm down otherwise my mum would find out.
She knew nothing of my sexual activity because it is a private thing. He gave me a prescription for valtrex and my mum figured it all out.
I'm so ashamed of myself. I just cry and cry. My mum is nearly 50 and has had multiple partners and no problems. And here I am, just 16, only ever kissed and
been with the one guy, and I've got glandular fever and herpes.
If I could take it all back I would, but he's convinced we're going to grow old together.
I wanted to have fun, travel the world and be with other guys, have fun before I settled down.
I guess the main thing is I have great support from him, and my best friend through all this. My mum's disappointed, but over time we'll all get through this. I'm not in a wheel chair, I'm not dying of cancer, I'm a healthy, young human being with great potential. I will get through this.
I am currently undergoing counseling for depression and anxiety, so this was just the cherry on top of my great weekend. Thank you for sharing your story with our community. I'm positive that it will touch many people.
You're right...in time you will learn to live with HSV and still accomplish all those things that you have dreamed about. There is absolutely no reason not to.
You'll learn that HSV is not the monster that you have been led to believe. Other than outbreaks that make you uncomfortable, you can lead a happy and productive life.
With the proper treatment and maybe a few healthy tweaks to your lifestyle you'll hardly know that HSV is there.
You're lucky that you have other people who love you and who know about your condition. Many people try to shoulder their diagnosis alone and end up even more depressed. Keep talking to your friend and Mum.
Plus you can always drop us a line here to answer your questions or better yet help others handle their diagnosis.
Wishing you success and happiness!