Having Sex With Herpes Asymptomatic Outbreaks
How can you have sex if you don't know whether or not you are asymptomatic?
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So with that being said, let's jump right into this interesting topic!
For those of you who might not know what asymptomatic outbreaks are, I'll provide a very brief definition...
Basically an asymptomatic outbreak means that a person who has been diagnosed with herpes and is having an outbreak with no noticeable signs or symptoms such as blisters. This is as known as viral shedding.
A broad definition of asymptomatic can be found here
Listen, there will always be a risk of transmitting HSV to a sexual partner. This could happen whether you are asymptomatic or not.
Viral shedding is definitely a cause for concern, especially in the first year of being diagnosed. Studies have shown that a person will experience shedding up to 15% of the month. And with that being said, it also increases the chances of spreading the virus to a partner significantly. And the worse part is that you do not know when viral shedding is happening so protecting your partner during this time is extremely difficult.
The good news is that there are also studies that show that viral shedding in people with genital herpes reduces with each passing year that a person has herpes.
Another bit of good news and a much better option for those people in a relationship or thinking about taking a relationship to the next level is that taking Valtrex further reduces the risk!
can read more about the study on how taking Valtrex reduces the risk here.
In the end, it's important to be open and honest with your partner. Openly communicate with her about your condition and everything you know about the virus. You should be making the learning process intimate by researching it together with your partner.
Make sure that you explain all the risks and the transmission rate statistics. The two of you should be making the decision to have sex together and figure out the right way to proceed that works best for both of you.
It's important for you to know that once you tell someone about having HSV, it's their choice on whether or not to have sex with you. If they choose to have sex with you then they are accepting the risk of your chosen way of protecting them.
However, if they choose not to have sex with you or to make unreasonable demands then it's also their decision. Don't take it personal and don't let it get to you. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person. It doesn't mean that you're dirty. It simply means that that person is not right for you.
And one final thought...don't make the process harder than it has to be. If there is a bright side to having herpes its the fact that casual sexual encounters will be limited. Sex will be more intimate and less of a physical release.
You'll be extremely surprised to find out that having sex with a loving partner who has accepted the risk will be amazingly more intense because you have been honest. And being honest is one of the foundation blocks of any worthwhile relationship.
May Peace Be With You!
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