Feeling Sad and Confused With Genital Herpes
Thanks for your site, it´s calmed me down a lot, although I am still going through a mix of emotions as I just got diagnosed yesterday only by physical examination, though, so I´m waiting to take the other tests to be sure.
I do, however, have most of the symptoms listed here so I´m bracing myself. I, like many others am confused.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and we have both been faithful to each other. He has gotten tested numerous times and always been negative for all STDs including herpes. I, too, have gotten tested but only with this diagnosis did I realize that herpes is generally not included in some STD Testing, so I´m waiting to hear confirmation on if it was tested or not.
Basically I got tested for STDs 3 weeks ago, hadn´t had sexual relations in over a month and then saw my boyfriend last Saturday, and by Monday night I had developed a fever and slight rash.
If I wasn't with anyone other than him and I had barely seen him 2 days before I started developing symptoms does this mean I had the virus long before and it just had an outbreak now?
Or that somehow I had a very quick reaction and got it from him? But in 2 days?? And after numerous other times that we had had unprotected sex??
Before my boyfriend I hadn't been with anyone else in a year and a half, could the virus have been dormant for that long??
The doctor has prescribed some treatment for me but basically if my boyfriend has an outbreak now, does that mean I gave it to him?
He is now questioning if I was faithful to him but I of course know that I have been. I find no other explanation except that I did have this a long time ago and my STD testing didn´t cover it and that for some reason I just had an outbreak now, even after at least
two months of my boyfriend and I having unprotected sex.
Would appreciate any thoughts you have. Thanks.Thank you for sharing your questions here with our community. I'm sure that many others have the same questions and hopefully my responses will help you and many others.
I don't want to make you any more confused but although HSV is a rather straightforward type of virus, it really is an "individualized" critter (forgive me...I live in Texas!). What I mean by this is it affects everyone a little differently.
Although the information that you'll find available about the symptoms of herpes and such is pretty much "black and white", you should keep in mind that they are based on the averages of nearly 50 million people and may not be an accurate reflection of your symptoms and the way your body has reacted to HSV.
With this in mind I'll answer your questions the best that I can...
You wrote..."If I wasn't with anyone other than him and I had barely seen him 2 days before I started developing symptoms does this mean I had the virus long before and it just had an outbreak now?"
Yes you could have had the virus for a long time and it could have laid dormant but I seriously doubt that it stayed dormant. What I mean by this is that you probably experienced extremely mild outbreaks before and never paid them too much attention or mistaken them for another condition.
This happens a lot and more times than most people will admit and can explain just about everything that you are experiencing but...
I do have a question for you. Why after being in a committed relationship for a year and a half are you having a STD test?
I know this is really none of my business and you don't have to answer but normally this indicates that you have had suspicions of some kind. The answer here may provide you with the answers to your other questions or fears.
Wishing You Success and Happiness!