Dealing With A Herpes Diagnoses - I go between all of these phases regularly

It has been 5 years since my diagnosis and just when I think I have reached the acceptance phase, I feel the symptoms of an outbreak.

Devastation and heart break come almost instantly and I feel like I revert back to anger, bargaining, sadness and depression.

I felt very hopeful when I learned about Dynamiclear, I felt at that time that I could finally get control over this virus that for so long has controlled me.

I used my first application this past weekend and the pain from blistering and the product actually 'working' has been so painful that it has brought me back to tears once again.

I spoke to customer support and they assured me that this reaction was normal for a first time application and to just ride out the storm.

I feel hopeful once again that the next outbreak will be a little less painful and so on each time less and less. I feel like I am doing all of the right things, watching my diet, exercising, balancing my lysine levels and eliminating certain foods from my diet that are known triggers for the virus.

But when I feel another outbreak coming on, I just feel so defeated. I feel sometimes as though I just won't ever be able to plan too far ahead because an outbreak may turn my life upside down once again.

I feel as though I get up, I feel so positive and free...and then fall flat on my face. Any words of wisdom other than to just keep getting back up??

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Sep 30, 2015
Coping With Herpes - Use Herpes For Good To Help You Feel Better
by: Ed

Thank you so much for sharing your struggles with coping with your diagnosis. There are many others who experience the same struggles that will benefit from knowing that they are not alone. From knowing that they are not overreacting or being hyper-sensitive.

Maybe I can help you re-frame your struggles and instead of thinking of herpes as a curse, think of it as a blessing. You think I'm crazy right?

Keep reading...

In order to come to a place of peace and acceptance with herpes you must first change your thoughts, perception, belief and opinions of having it.

Behavior science experts (and me too) have concluded that people are disturbed, not by the things that happen to them, but rather by the principles and opinions they formed concerning those things. Herpes is a very good example.

It's not the fact that having the herpes virus that shaped our thoughts...rather it's our opinions of the virus we had either before or after we were diagnosed.

The herpes virus comes in many different forms. Chicken pox, Shingles, cold sores, etc. But they all have basically the same characteristics. Outbreaks, pain, tingling, blisters, etc.

But do we have negative opinions or perceptions of people who suffer from these forms of the herpes virus? Probably not.

So how do you go about changing our thoughts and opinions of herpes?

Take control of your thoughts and stop the cycle of wishing things were different. Until there is a real cure for herpes..we're stuck with it.

Understand that being optimistic is your choice. We're not born with positive or negative thoughts. It is something that develops through our past experiences. Having herpes is rarely as bad as we think it is. Think of 3 or 4 things that that are positive about having are mine:

1. Having herpes has helped me to take a deeper look at my romantic relationships.

2. Having herpes is my vehicle for helping others.

3. Having herpes has helped me to live a more healthy lifestyle. I'd rather live a long and healthy life with herpes than a short and unhealthy life without it.

4. Having herpes has helped me understand my body and how it reacts to certain situations (stress is the most important).

5. I said this before but it's worth mentioning again...having herpes is my vehicle for helping others.

I'm sure that if you think hard about it, that you too can find positives about having herpes.

You probably don't realize it but you are using herpes to help others right now.

By simply sharing your story, your struggles, your treatment experiences you are actually using herpes for a greater good because other people who are struggling more than you will benefit from your own experiences. Do this make you feel better? Maybe a little bit?

Another thing that you can do is join a herpes support group in your town. Even if you don't have one locally, traveling to a meeting even once per month will allow you to meet others and learn how they are coping with their herpes diagnoses.

Or even better, you can start your own support group.

Our perceptions...our attitudes...our opinions are the driving forces when dealing with this virus. We have a choice. We can use it to our advantage and do great things or we can allow it to bring us down.

I've chosen to do great things and help others!

What's your choice?


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