Dating Someone With Herpes?
Are you dating someone with herpes? If you have been dating someone for any length of time and she has told you that she has the herpes simplex virus, then you probably have many questions lingering from your conversation.
The most common information that you most people are trying to find is learning how to reduce your chances of getting this little virus. There are many facts about the
but keep one important thing in mind, everybody is different. There are several variables that must be taken into consideration such as:
How long has your friend had herpes? Often the longer a person has the virus the less frequent and less severe their outbreaks will be. Also, it’s been proven that viral shedding is drastically reduced after the first year after becoming infected.
Does your friend take
such as Valtrex for suppressive therapy? The FDA has approved Valtrex as a medication for reducing viral shedding and dramatically reducing the transmission rates.
What type of herpes virus does your friend have? This is important to know because often a person who has HSV-1 on their genitals or genital region, will not experience as many outbreaks as a person who has HSV-2 or genital herpes.
How Did My Partner Get It?
If you have been dating someone with herpes for a significant amount of time and have just found out that they have HSV, then you may have suspected that they were unfaithful in your relationship. Whether or not this is true remains to be seen but just because your friend was
while in a relationship with you does not necessarily mean that they have been unfaithful.
Because as much as 90% of people who are infected with the virus show no
signs or symptoms
or perhaps their symptoms have been so mild that they were overlooked in the past. It is likely that they may have become infected years before meeting you. It is also possible that the virus remained hidden in their body and this was the first time that it has caused any symptoms.
Could You Have Given Her Herpes?
Another thing to consider is that your friend may have caught the herpes simplex virus from YOU! That’s right! This crazy virus affects everybody differently and you may have been one of the 90% that had the virus and didn’t know it until it was unknowingly passed on to your partner. The virus may have been totally invisible to you but caused severe outbreaks in your friend.
Dating Someone With Herpes Tips
is very powerful in today’s society and it has probably taken your friend a great deal of courage to discuss this very personal and sensitive subject with you. This should show you that your friend has a great deal of integrity. Integrity is the foundation of a truly meaningful relationship and dating someone with herpes is no different.
Here are a few simple tips while moving forward in your relationship:
- Get tested for herpes before you become sexually active with your friend. Remember that a typical STD testing panel does not include a herpes test. You will have to specifically ask for a herpes panel test.
- Know the risks, the transmission rates and protect yourself by wearing condoms, refrain from having sex during active outbreaks and begin an anti-viral drug suppressive therapy.
- Don’t treat your friend differently just because she has herpes. She knows that she has it and the last thing that your friend needs is to be treated as though she is infected with an incurable disease.
- Don’t place demands on your friend that you wouldn’t normally place on someone else. If you are going to demand that she wears a rubber suit before touching you, then it’s best that you move on.
- Once you accept the risk of being sexually active with her don’t place all of the responsibility on her shoulders to protect you. This burden is just too much for anyone to carry. She is probably very hyper-sensitive to any abnormal itch, pimple, or ingrown hair and will abstain from sex to protect you.
- Above all…if you don’t want to assume the risk then stop dating her. There's no magic bullet here! Don't continue the relationship if the risk is more than you can tolerate. You'll just end up making things worse.
Final Thoughts on Dating Someone With Herpes
The risk of becoming infected with the herpes simplex virus is relatively high when dating within the general population. With as many as 90% of the 50 million people in the United States not knowing that they have herpes and the ability to transmit it, you are probably at a much lesser risk of contracting it from someone who already knows they have it and recognizes their symptoms and manages their outbreaks effectively.
I'd strongly recommend that you never stop dating someone or break off a relationship based solely on a herpes infection especially if you think you’ve found that 1 in 100 exceptional person.
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