Confused Guy

I had just been told I have HSV, they did not type it(1 or). However I do have it on my anus. I'm not gay, but my wife and I did oral. She said she never showed any signs of HSV-1. Nor do I have it on my penis. I don't understand it? The doctors did a swab and blood test. Swab they said was + and blood -. I understand this may be because I just got it. But my wife and I have been married 7 years and just now getting it. I never cheated on her and she never cheated on me.

How can this be? Could have my wife gotten it from work? She shared her cigarettes a lot and lip gloss/ stick. She is waitress at a bar. But if she just gotten she should have had a cold sore right? I'm asking this cause military docs are pointless.

I'm sorry for the delay in getting back to your questions and concerns. I'm sure that you and our community will benefit from it.

Listen, I know that you have a lot of questions about how you got HSV. And frankly your situation is a little puzzling to me too. Has your wife been tested? If not, that would be my first step in solving this complex puzzle.

Trying to figure out all of this when we don't have all the pieces of the puzzle may be impossible. In fact, you may never know how you got it.

Is it possible that you can have it for over 7 years and just now have an outbreak? Yes but your recent blood test would have been positive too. This means that you have been recently exposed (within the past 3 months). More than likely within the past 21 days.

As far as if your wife could have gotten HSV-1 from a cigarette or lip gloss, well...maybe if the conditions were just right. And by her working in a bar where sharing these things is common, she may have. But until she is tested we don't know.

Also, I wish they would have typed your HSV. This is also important and could help solve the mystery.

If you'd like to continue to work through this in private, then feel free to contact me at my personal email address,

Wishing you Success and Happiness,


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